Many of the things we take for granted in todays world, you don't learn how to do, from your parents.
Many of the things we learn, we learn in school from our classmates.
How to dress
Yes we learn the physical aspects of performing the function of dressing ourselves from Mom.
But the cool kids show us how to make it look good.
(Lets face it, we would all look stupid in those spring dresses and plaid sweaters moms love to put on little kids, if that was the only place to learn from.)
In fact, the more the parents Hated it, the more the cool kids were right, it's cool. (Pull up your pants, quit showing your boxers. OMG you are NOT going out of the house wearing THAT!)
I'll admit, I was never one of the cool kids in school, but, I was the oldest kid in the house and that sort of set me up for role model of the moment when my younger siblings were bored and just wanted to irritate me.
Which leads to the next lesson we learn as kids, that we didn't learn from our parents:
How to Annoy Other People.
This, we learned from the uncool people in school. The nerds, the gear heads, the geeks, the goths, the jocks and basically everyone who was or wasn't in the same click/niche/group/club that you were in.
Incessant behavior of any kind is annoying, and childish, but can be controlled with aversion therapy and /or a large brick.
How to Please Others
Inside all of us lies the need to belong, to be accepted, loved, etc. and we have developed complex issues and complex systems of gaining and holding a person's attention, either for a night or for a lifetime.
We learn how to deal with this urge from our peers in school. We develop skills and methods through trial and error. Most of us remember the errors more than the successes, but that is how memory (and aversion therapy) works.
This attraction is the basis of adult life.
Let's face it, if we didn't have this urge, there would be no reason to go on living. All that we do stems from this urge. Work, Play, Sex, Romance, Dream, Desire, all stem from this simple state of needing to belong.
A good Dominant recognizes this fact in themselves as well as in others. The lessons learned are applied across the spectrum of everyday dealings and a balance is reached. This makes us simple Master's of our selves. When one Master can see these urges in the submissive near him, and can utilize his talents to guide them using skills that The Dominant learned from their peers, then this cycle is complete.
if you want to belong, then you must be pleasing, you must find an acceptable measure of yourself in this and must be willing to recognize the dominant's control, without this there is no meeting of the minds, no joining, and no belonging.
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