This Week’s Picks
Being Civil
“They couldn’t understand what the appeal of a civil union was for us.”

Clandestine Rendezvous
“He turned around to kiss me and I melted.”

Hotel Sex
“The excitement is too much for both of us”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
You Can’t Make This Shit Up, Part 2

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Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

Let’s Pretend…
Masturbaticon I
Our Peculiar Erotica
“Pay No Attention To That Man Behind The Curtain”
Taking Charge of Your Own Pleasure
Tease and Denial: In Defense of Subtlety
Things that make you go Mmmmmm

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Babygate Continues!
Vibrators of the Future

Sex Work
Pillow Humping Cam Pussy

BDSM & Fetish
Arms to the sky
Beads
brock’s Last Task
My surprise for Daddy
Naughty, Naughty…Nice
The New Pet (fiction)
A proper thank you
The Runaround.
Welcome to Kinky Sex Link

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Bare back HNT
HNT - Stripping for the Bath Brush - F/m Spanking Pic
Sasha Grey (NewNudeCity)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
8:55 - On My Way…
Asian massage parlors
Awakening
Brains in her cunt
The “Ex-Pat” Love [2nd. Revision]
Fantasy Friday: Lips Like Sugar
Hausfrau
In the Early Morning Darkness
Not Quite Poetry
On the Back of a Motorcycle
Release
Your first time with me[From Sugasm #145]

A lot of people know me and my long hair, I’ve been growing it for a couple of years now. Unfortunately, since my surgeries I’m finding it harder and harder to take care of.

Enter people who care about me and argue about my choices in hair style (and lifestyle but that’s not what this one is about) and a serious discussion ensues about me cutting my long “Jesus” style hair.

I thought about it… This is what I came up with….

Locks of Love is a well-established nonprofit organization dedicated to gathering donated hair for children’s wigs. This group provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children across the U.S. who suffer from long-term medical hair loss. These children receive custom-made and fitted wigs made from donated human hair for free or on a sliding scale based on need.

Donated hair must be at least 10 inches long, clean, dry, and bundled into a ponytail or braid. Colored or permed hair is acceptable if it’s not chemically damaged. Gray hair is not suitable for children’s wigs. Most of the wig requests come from girls, and they want long hair. That’s why there is a minimum length. Hair as long as 14 to 16 inches is ideal. Shorthaired boy’s wigs are made from shorter lengths separated from longer ponytails/braids. The Fantastic Sam’s in my area also donates the cost of the cut, so guys, it’s a free haircut.

Wigs for Kids is another nonprofit group that accepts donated hair. This organization also gives hairpieces to children affected by medical hair loss. Their hair donation guidelines are slightly different — hair must be 12 inches long and must not be permed or color-treated in any way.

While chemotherapy is the best-known reason for children’s hair loss, it does not cause a permanent loss of hair. After the treatment is over, hair almost always grows back within three to six months. In contrast, alopecia areata, an autoimmune skin disease, can cause patchy or complete hair loss that lasts for years. The cause of the disease is unknown, and it currently has no cure. Locks of Love notes that most of the children they help have alopecia areata, and the wigs are a great boost to the children’s self esteem.

Another way to help cancer patients (children and adults alike) is to make soft hats to cover their heads during chemotherapy. Viking Sewing Machines has sponsored events for home sewers to make and donate “comfort caps” for those undergoing cancer treatment. One mother who lost her daughter to cancer created a web site with free knitting patterns you can use to make soft berets and hats for cancer patients. Sewing.org has a free tutorial on making turbans to wear during chemotherapy. All of these projects require very few materials and are simple enough for beginners to try.

Whether you have hair or handicrafts to donate, those in need will appreciate the warm, stylish head coverings and your generosity. I’ll post the naked head photos on Thursday.

This Week’s Picks
Bush Rides Again: Birth Control Defined as “Abortion”?
“The reason you tweak laws, redefining them or broadening their definitions, is to create the opportunity for a legal climate in which challenges may better succeed.”

First Time For Everything: A Polyamorous Relationship
“The only real trouble with being a triad came from the world around us.”

Sex Work And Compassion: Panty Tree
“I will never feel shame for being a sex worker.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy

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Erotic Writing and Experiences
Dreams
Needs. I has them.
On Feeling June Cleaverish
Saturday Night
Strippers and race
The Sunday Squirt
Under the Covers
Whenever we’re apart…

Sex Humor
Impertinent Question: Do You Name Your Genitals?

BDSM & Fetish
Anatomy of a Mindfuck
Brutal caning punishments for school girls’ filthy behaviour
Caning; La marca del deseo.
Claire Adams Does Some Wonderful Shibari Rigging In This Scene From The Whipped-Pussy Archives
Mz Berlin (Me!) & Madison Young In Bondage Slave Training
Ring Around the Collar
Two school girls in uniform spanked and caned over the bench.
Witch Stories
Whoring Hubby Spanked - F/m Spanking Pix

Sex Advice
Ask Miss Bliss-My Girlfriend’s Using Coke And Lying About It
Controlling the Urge to Ejaculate
How To Pick A Dildo
Pull My Hair, Slap Me Around - A How-To Guide To Rough Sex, Part 1

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Catalina loves Masculinity
It’s been a while - lots of stuff going on!
Satine Phoenix Says, “Save thousands on therapy, go to your reunion!!?”
Wax On; Wacks Off

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Fetish Model Toxxxy In Cotton Panties Smearing Jam All Over Herself
FunseXXXtoys Public Baptismal
The Jollie Review For Babeland
Sex on Spout
Sgt Major Makes Jade Marxxx Beg For Pain On Backdoor Bondage
Spanking interview with Thomas S. Roche

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Bedroom Radio #21: Sinclair Sexsmith of Sugarbutch.net
Elaisted is to Corset Photography what Phelps is to Swimming!
Photo Essay

Sex & Politics
The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice
Friends of Jefferson, Spanking for Justice!

Note: While the Sugasm is back there are still a few bugs to sort out. The submission form isn’t working. For now please send your submission to me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom If you don’t see your post above it probably got lost during the server move. The featured pic will be returning soon. Thanks for your patience!

[From Sugasm #144 & Note]

This may come as a surprise to most people but hospital food has been bad mouthed for a long time… rubbery chicken or boiled beef… under done potatoes or over done peas, pudding - vintage 1949.

But here’s the thought… the alternatives available, starvation diet, not needing to eat because you aren’t there, not nearly as appetizing.

As I sit here waiting on my third heart surgery in as many weeks, NPO (nothing passed orally - no food or water), I can imagine that strained rice soup after a day of not eating might be better than (ok, almost as good as) embalming fluid after a day of not breathing.

If you take the worst cook in the world, they probably already work in some institutional kitchen someplace, but they are still a better host than the mortician.

~Mez~

Most of my friends on fetlife know that i have been ill for a long while.

the result is that this week, the INVINCIBLE Master, became the very vincible - drop kicked to the curb - spatua lifted into an ambulance and taken in for heart surgery.

5 daysin a hospital and a pace maker later, i am now - BIONIC Master!!!

horray for me.

sad truth is, though, i’m actually feeling lots better with the obvious exception that the incision hurts like hell… but surgery is like that.. no passing out at the drop of a hat or ignoring everyone telling me i look like hell, i need to see a doctor.

while i will agree, now, that 911 was the right call at the right time, i’m still the arrogant asshole you’ve all come to know and love.

only now i have the optional electronics package.

Browsing his most recent show, you get the feeling few people enjoy their job as much as photographer Lochai.

His Beach Bound exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum (1205 Washington Avenue, Miami Beach) is a study in Lochai’s various fetishes. While front and center is the theme of women in bondage — hence the show’s title — the photographer’s NC-17 tastes clearly run the gamut: the images include a nun in a leather gas mask, a naked woman perched above a toilet, and an androgynous figure in a full-body rubber suit, lying in a bathtub being pummeled by running water from the spout above.

But as unlikely as it sounds, the images aren’t necessarily shocking — nor does that seem to be Lochai’s intent. And instead of the violence you might expect from a portfolio of bondage photos, there’s a playfulness instead. In images that might otherwise invoke terror — for instance, the pair that shows a woman left bound by a hotel bed, or in an eerily domestic living room — the subjects gaze with a mix of mockery and intrigue at the camera.

As to whether you should go to this show, it’s fetishism — either it gets your attention or it doesn’t. If you’re a regular reader of “Savage Love,” you’ll probably find this exhibit, at the least, entertaining. If you’ve ever protested a gay Teletubby, on the other hand, you should probably save your cash for Miami Spice.

If you do go, be sure to wander around the rest of the museum, which is surprisingly expansive for a place that’s very missable from the outside. They’ve got it all here, with perverse pieces from all over the world, ranging from the contemporary (an 8-foot golden penis statue) to the ancient (Chinese jade dildoes). You won’t look at a lamppost, or a bald guy, the same way for the rest of the day.

– Gus Garcia-Roberts[From Riptide 2.0 - Loco Lochai: Fetish Photography at the World Erotic Art Museum]

Writing a song about self love isn’t as easy as it sounds, I imagine. How do you pen a tune about masturbation that doesn’t sound obvious or conjure up disturbing images? The following artists did it right, in no particular order (and check out clips of the songs, after the jump).

9. “And when my hand touches myself/I can finally rest my head/And when they take from his body/I think I’ll take from mine instead/Getting off, getting off while they’re all downstairs.”—Tori Amos, “Icicle”
Lyrical analysis isn’t my forte, but it seems like Tori is saying she’s diddling herself while her man’s funeral is going on downstairs. Scandalous!

8. “When there’s no-one else in sight/In the crowded lonely night/Well I wait so long/For my love vibration/And I’m dancing with myself.”—Billy Idol, “Dancing With Myself”
Do you think he keeps his leather glove on when he’s doin’ it?

7. “Let me go on, like I blister in the sun/Let me go on, big hands I know your the one/Body and beats, I stain my sheets/I don’t even know why.”—The Violent Femmes, “Blister In The Sun”
The Violent Femmes should really consider having a box of Kleenex on the nightstand for such occasions.

6. “You got your left hand/You got your right hand/The left hand’s diddling/While the right hand goes to work.”—Devo, “Praying Hands”
How instructional!

5. “Do we even need to write the lyrics here?/You know the damn thing by now don’t you? Don’t you? Fine, here it is/I don’t want anybody else/And when I think about you I touch myself/Ooh, ooh, ooh, aah.”—The Divinyls, “I Touch Myself”
Many people fantasize about their own sexual partners when masturbating. Do you?

4. “This I’ve got your picture, I’ve got your picture/I’d like a million of you all round my cell/I want a doctor to take your picture/So I can look at you from inside as well/You’ve got me turning up and turning down/And turning in and turning ‘round/I’m turning Japanese, I think I’m turning Japanese.”—The Vapors, “Turning Japanese”
So the deal with this song is that a guy, like, squints his eyes when he’s about to…you know…and hence he is “turning Japanese”. I sort of think this song is a little racist but it is a classic.

3. “Do I wanna go out with a lions roar/Huh, yea, I wanna go south n get me some more/Hey, they say that a stitch in time saves nine/They say I better stop–or Ill go blind/Oop–she bop–she bop.”—Cyndi Lauper, “She Bop”
Prudes sometimes tell their kids that masturbating will make them go blind. All I know is I can see just fine. Hey! That rhymed!

2. “Cause I just discovered/Imagination’s taken over/Another day without a lover/The more I come to understand the touch of my hand/The small of my back/The arch of my feet/Lately I’ve been noticing the beautiful me/I’m all in my skin and I’m not gonna wait/I’m into myself in a most precious way.”—Britney Spears, “The Touch Of My Hand”
For the record, this is post-Justin, pre-Federline, so girlfriend was probably a little lonely.

1. “I knew a girl named Nikki/I guess u could say she was a sex fiend/I met her in a hotel lobby/Masturbating with a magazine/She said how’d you like to waste some time/And I could not resist when I saw little Nikki grind.”—Prince, “Darling Nikki”
This song and it’s racy lyrics is what prompted Tipper Gore to form the Parents Music Resource Center, which eventually led to the use of “Parental Advisory” stickers and imprints on album covers. The song was also dubbed ‘pornographic’ and ‘satanic’. Awesome!

[From Top Nine Songs About Masturbation | The Frisky]

Sugasm #141

July 21st, 2008 by Vixen | Updated: July 21st, 2008

Tara Tainton courtesy of Porn Saints.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #142? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Comedy vs. Tragedy
“Are you on your period? What? Did he just say…”

Ian, or, Sometimes Sex is Hilarious
“In short, it isn’t sex blogger sex.”

A Wish
“I wish that you could know the indescribable pleasure of being enfolded in your warm, gentle wetness.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Road Rage

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Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Forgetting
How Do You Flirt With Milk?
The Hunt
I Don’t Usually Date, but…
I have huge tits.
Men on Pointe
My Femme Cock
Nibbles and Bits: Vegetarian? Really? Doh!
Present and first love making

Sex Advice
How to Make Her Want Anal Sex
Play Safe
The Power of Suggestion- And How It Helps You Meet Women

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Gisele Bundchen Topless and Nipple Slip Pictures
HNT - Purple Lace Part Two
Lady Sascha Does HHNT
Marta - Professional
Once upon a time HNT
Pornsaint Tara Tainton
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet -HNT
Sam Bound

Sex Humor
It did not work
When your mother has more sex than you do…

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Can’t Get Enough
Fiction - The Wrong Smith Girl
Getting to fuck the neighbor 15
Harder…
In any language,…
Le Cadeaux
Nine: of nasty names
Oh Honey, Make Yourself Cum for Me
The Parking Garage
Pointless
The Ride.
Rub a Dub Dub
The Second Time Around
Slow.Soft.Hot.Perfect
Spin the bottle-the conclusion
Tits~n~Teets 2
TNT - Part 2
The Wanting
Writhe

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Can A Film Prostitute In 1930’s Shanghai Fare Any Better Than One Of The 100,000 Prostitutes Working The Streets In The City?
Donate To Satine Phoenix’s Tantric Exploration
Escort X: Find great escorts
Spanking erotica interview with Alison Tyler
The value of erotic blogging
Wanted: Your Orgasms Caught on Tape

BDSM & Fetish
Auction of a Slave
Changing Cravings For Pain: A Survey
A Beautifully Cruel Predicament Bondage Scene
Cuntwriting
Fitting Punishment
The house in Vienna
July MVK: Play piercing
Leather Retreat 2008 – The Toll Booth
Mz Berlin Gets The Bastinado And Rack Torture On Hogtied
Necessary Roughness
Routine Maintenance, pt. 2
A Scene in Three Parts … (part III)
Taken and Collared as a Sex Slave while her husband sleeps
Telegraph
Trying on new shoes, Friday night edition

[From Sugasm #141]

Updated: July 14th, 2008

Mistress E courtesy of Dark Mistress.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #141? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
“Are you a sex blogger or a sexy blogger?”
“It builds a community that I am so proud to be part of.”

The J Word
“And while you’re with her, I’ll be with him.”

Transcending moment
”It’s that place between fear and arousal, and they are so very closely related.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Chill Pleasure

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[From Sugasm #140]