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Twisted Tuesday’s Kink Interview: Gorean BDSM
Posted on December 10, 2008 by ExploringIntimacy

Jarl Mezentius - So Hot Maxim Picked Him Over Their Usual Babe of the Month


This week we bring you Jarl Mezentius, who is eager to share his love of Gorean BDSM. Gor is a fictional society in a series of erotic books that has inspired a large following of kinkters who call themselves Goreans. Goreans usually practice male dominant and female submissive roles within BDSM, and adhere to a range of strict rules and etiquette. Keep reading to learn more about Jarl’s experiences!

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Someone on my twitter post and asked “Why everyone seems to be into BDSM lately”. Since I’ve been around from times before this was the “Cool Kids” scene, I may be able to help divine an answer.

BDSM is being mainstreamed. You’re welcome, I’ve worked hard to do this, not just in my Blog but also on Bondage Radio.

BDSM is on television. BDSM in the movies and books and has become a Zeitgeist. BDSM is a means of expression and rebellion against the establishment.

BDSM has simply been popularized in a trend against the Conservatism that has helped spawn it’s opposites into power.

Most people play for a bit…until they meet someone serious. The real kinks stick around after the lights burn out.

That being said; as I browse the internet I come across many interesting and outrageous things about myself and my lifestyle. Things that other people notice, but are just too common or too deep in my psychology to actually be noticed by me.

Tidbit #1: In general, dominant men who are in the BDSM lifestyle are not chauvinists.

[Liza S. From Vanilla Soup » Helpful BDSM Practitioners]

Thanks for that. I had almost forgotten that. I was too wound up in being the “Arrogant Asshole, Sir” so many people know me by.

The belly of a wife can burn just as brightly as the belly of a slave. We just use different terms!

[Devin From Unadulterated Devin » Domestic Discipline, BDSM, and the Like]

This is not so much about me, per se, but about the women whom serve me. It also reminds me of my duty to them, as Master, to always be mindful of my power and position in their lives.

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go to a web page, write a couple lines, and instantly tell people you don’t really know (or don’t know at all) that you’re going to be out of town for a couple weeks, days, hours…

… come home and find it empty because someone knew you weren’t going to be home… and that the neighbors haven’t seen you in months because you’ve twittered your time away…

yea… that’s a what I want to do… NOT!

Sounds like a healthy dose of Smacked Ass needs to be passed around for all you Twitter junkies… If you want to know what I’m doing, subscribe to my RSS feed, read my blog regularly or just freakin’ ask me in IM or Chat or what not…

You CAN send me a message right on the computer or your cell phone… it’s easy…

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As for luna’s Thursday question:

How do you handle correction or punishment from the one you serve? What is the worst punishment you have received?

I’ll have to reply from the Dominant’s point of view:

What’s the worst punishment I have ever given:

Most of my girls have outwardly, handled punishment quite well. I’m going to assume here because the truth of the matter is always subjective and probably wouldn’t apply to all of the girls whom have served me.

what was the worst? I’d have to say every punishment I didn’t want or didn’t like giving would be the worst.

I am not a Sadist to the Nth degree like so many of the BDSM Masters out there, consequently my style of Dominance doesn’t include pain or punishments handed out liberally.

I have one instance in mind tho that would have to be the worst; It is well known in many of my personal circles that I HATE doing the washing up, cleaning dishes after a meal. I wont go into the reasons for it specifically but suffice it to say, it stems from my childhood.

On one occasion I had a slave with me who after a long day where she had displeased me on many levels and after she had gone to bed, in the guest room next to the kitchen, I came out to discover that she had left the dishes un-done. I’m sure luna can relate as she has mentioned needing structure on several occasions.

I turned on the lights in the kitchen, making sure the light was shining right in the guest room and LOUDLY proceeded to do the dishes, clinking clanking and clamoring noises drew her out to find me elbow deep in dish soap and water. When she offered to finish and let me rest, I glared at her and through gritted teeth ordered her to bed. When she protested I did relay the story of my childhood and sent her to bed yet again, letting her know how displeased i was.

To her, I’m sure she would have preferred me beat her then allowed her to finish her chore before bed. Instead I let her stew in her guilt of displeasing Me, allowed her to hear my hated chore come from the next room over, and let her know that she could not correct the situation that night.

I can assure you now, that I haven’t had to wash a single dish, since.

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I posted this as a Discussion Topic on FetLife…

HOW DO YOU EXPLAIN YOUR LIFESTYLE… WHEN 911 ARIVES?

Here’s my simple answer:

Other than answering Medically Valuable Questions: Don’t… In Most BDSM dynamics, the best answer is to remain silent… don’t say a word about HOW or WHY…

Instruct your sub in the same protocols.

If it is needed, a Call to 911 should always be made FIRST! Always provide your location, the sex and age of the person injured or endangered, and the specific injury or danger.

After 911 arrives, Render Medical information accurately. If you are at home, you should have a 911 sheet for every member of the house easily available.

I Have a Medic Alert refrigerator Magnet provided by my local Sheriff’s Department which is filled out and maintained for every member of the house, including the cat.

If any questions asked are NOT immediately Medically related, but ask about Lifestyle or Fetishes; ask for “A” Lawyer. This may wind up in front of a court, and everyone in ear shot can and will be called to the stand and required to testify, it does not matter who asks the question, it can and will be used in the courts.

Saying “It’s a Fetish” will quickly land everyone in jail under various sex laws in almost ALL locations. Prosecutors now, more than ever, are prosecuting ‘Sex Offenders’ of all types, and many are seeking major headlines.

I say ask for “A” lawyer, and not MY lawyer, because, almost always, there is a Lawyer available to the police department by the public defenders office at all times.

Police want answers quickly and some answers may be needed quickly. Once “A” lawyer arrives and begins representing you, you can ask them for YOUR Lawyer, if you have one.

You may be embarrassed by your lifestyle in the public, or may believe you could get in trouble for your fetish, and in most cases, this is true. Once your Lawyer arrives, they can help you make the decisions about your LEGAL standing. If you are the sub type, remember that a Lawyer can NOT make legal decisions For You.

Although Legal Information may be withheld when not in the presence of your lawyer, Medical information can never be withheld legally. Information about the health or welfare of another, or yourself MUST be given to medical professionals or first responders, even if that first responder is a police officer.

Safe Sane Consensual or Risk Aware Consensual Kink always waves favor to, Local Legal Statutes for your area.

Have Comments? Have a Blog? Link Back to me and post your comments on your blog. I’d love to hear what you have to say.

A lot of people know me and my long hair, I’ve been growing it for a couple of years now. Unfortunately, since my surgeries I’m finding it harder and harder to take care of.

Enter people who care about me and argue about my choices in hair style (and lifestyle but that’s not what this one is about) and a serious discussion ensues about me cutting my long “Jesus” style hair.

I thought about it… This is what I came up with….

Locks of Love is a well-established nonprofit organization dedicated to gathering donated hair for children’s wigs. This group provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children across the U.S. who suffer from long-term medical hair loss. These children receive custom-made and fitted wigs made from donated human hair for free or on a sliding scale based on need.

Donated hair must be at least 10 inches long, clean, dry, and bundled into a ponytail or braid. Colored or permed hair is acceptable if it’s not chemically damaged. Gray hair is not suitable for children’s wigs. Most of the wig requests come from girls, and they want long hair. That’s why there is a minimum length. Hair as long as 14 to 16 inches is ideal. Shorthaired boy’s wigs are made from shorter lengths separated from longer ponytails/braids. The Fantastic Sam’s in my area also donates the cost of the cut, so guys, it’s a free haircut.

Wigs for Kids is another nonprofit group that accepts donated hair. This organization also gives hairpieces to children affected by medical hair loss. Their hair donation guidelines are slightly different — hair must be 12 inches long and must not be permed or color-treated in any way.

While chemotherapy is the best-known reason for children’s hair loss, it does not cause a permanent loss of hair. After the treatment is over, hair almost always grows back within three to six months. In contrast, alopecia areata, an autoimmune skin disease, can cause patchy or complete hair loss that lasts for years. The cause of the disease is unknown, and it currently has no cure. Locks of Love notes that most of the children they help have alopecia areata, and the wigs are a great boost to the children’s self esteem.

Another way to help cancer patients (children and adults alike) is to make soft hats to cover their heads during chemotherapy. Viking Sewing Machines has sponsored events for home sewers to make and donate “comfort caps” for those undergoing cancer treatment. One mother who lost her daughter to cancer created a web site with free knitting patterns you can use to make soft berets and hats for cancer patients. Sewing.org has a free tutorial on making turbans to wear during chemotherapy. All of these projects require very few materials and are simple enough for beginners to try.

Whether you have hair or handicrafts to donate, those in need will appreciate the warm, stylish head coverings and your generosity. I’ll post the naked head photos on Thursday.

This may come as a surprise to most people but hospital food has been bad mouthed for a long time… rubbery chicken or boiled beef… under done potatoes or over done peas, pudding - vintage 1949.

But here’s the thought… the alternatives available, starvation diet, not needing to eat because you aren’t there, not nearly as appetizing.

As I sit here waiting on my third heart surgery in as many weeks, NPO (nothing passed orally - no food or water), I can imagine that strained rice soup after a day of not eating might be better than (ok, almost as good as) embalming fluid after a day of not breathing.

If you take the worst cook in the world, they probably already work in some institutional kitchen someplace, but they are still a better host than the mortician.

~Mez~