One Man’s Journey

Quiet reflection on who and what you are and who and what you desire can bring peace, arousal, and hopefully a better understanding of what you want from BDSM

Items Required – Collar or ribbon Any phallic object (a real sex toy or some other phallic object) 2 clothespins or nipple clamps Ruler Candle and matches (test the candle wax first on the back of your hand prior to beginning) Small blanket or towel Kitchen Timer

Task – At the same time every day for 5 days you will perform this ritual. You can do this in the morning, afternoon or evening it is up to you but make time for it in your busy day, make it a priority. It should also be a time when you have peace and quiet. If you need to get up early please do so.

Each day’s session will be the same but you will vary your submissive activity during each session. You will begin in a dimly lit and quiet room, you will strip naked and put your small blanket on the floor (fold it so that it is just big enough to sit on). You will sit or kneel on the blanket in a way that is comfortable for you. Set your timer for 15 minutes and perform the following –

Day 1 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise you collar/ribbon to your mouth and kiss it. A collar is a symbol of control and your submission. Contemplate that while buckling/tying your collar around your throat. Once your collar is on you will sit straight and proud and with your hands fingers interlaced behind your neck so that you are touching your collar.

Day 2 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your phallic symbol to your mouth and kiss it. This symbolic cock is a sign of control you give to Master. It is the losing of yourself completely to their sexual and emotional control if only for brief moments that you offer your submission. Contemplate that while slipping the phallic object into your mouth and holding it there. You will sit straight and proud and with your fingers slipped between your pussy lips aware of the sexuality you offer.

Day 3 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your clothespins or clamps to your mouth and kiss them. These are symbols that your body is not always your own while participating in this scene. It is the offering up of your body that you offer up your submission. Contemplate that while placing one on each nipple. You will sit straight and proud and with your hand lifting up your breastsas if offering them to Master.

Day 4 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your ruler your mouth and kiss it. This is a symbol of the pain you offer to accept from your Master. It is the offering up of this acceptance of pain that you will often find your submission. Contemplate that while giving yourself one smack on each inner thigh and one to your pussy. You will then sit straight and proud and with the ruler between your teeth and you will give to yourself again any necessary smacks should the sting subside.

Day 5 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your candle to your mouth and kiss it. This is a symbol of the extraordinary sexual deviations you will offer to your Master. It is the offering up of this wax on your body that you offer up your submission. Light your candle and contemplate that while dripping a line of wax down your chest so that it drips towards your sex. You will then sit straight and proud and with the candle in your hands.

While doing each of these you will sit quietly for your 15 minutes. Each day you should consider a new mantra of sorts. I am_ or I offer to my Master _. (Fill in the blank daily.) Repeat this in your head, close your eyes and picture yourself as you are here offering your submission. When your time is up get up slowly, clean up as necessary and go about your day.

Reporting – At the end of this Task you will submit a report detailing this experience. Briefly describe each day. What time did you perform? Any thoughts or feelings while you performed? Any other ideas, thoughts or feelings you would like to share.

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I posted this as a Discussion Topic on FetLife…

HOW DO YOU EXPLAIN YOUR LIFESTYLE… WHEN 911 ARIVES?

Here’s my simple answer:

Other than answering Medically Valuable Questions: Don’t… In Most BDSM dynamics, the best answer is to remain silent… don’t say a word about HOW or WHY…

Instruct your sub in the same protocols.

If it is needed, a Call to 911 should always be made FIRST! Always provide your location, the sex and age of the person injured or endangered, and the specific injury or danger.

After 911 arrives, Render Medical information accurately. If you are at home, you should have a 911 sheet for every member of the house easily available.

I Have a Medic Alert refrigerator Magnet provided by my local Sheriff’s Department which is filled out and maintained for every member of the house, including the cat.

If any questions asked are NOT immediately Medically related, but ask about Lifestyle or Fetishes; ask for “A” Lawyer. This may wind up in front of a court, and everyone in ear shot can and will be called to the stand and required to testify, it does not matter who asks the question, it can and will be used in the courts.

Saying “It’s a Fetish” will quickly land everyone in jail under various sex laws in almost ALL locations. Prosecutors now, more than ever, are prosecuting ‘Sex Offenders’ of all types, and many are seeking major headlines.

I say ask for “A” lawyer, and not MY lawyer, because, almost always, there is a Lawyer available to the police department by the public defenders office at all times.

Police want answers quickly and some answers may be needed quickly. Once “A” lawyer arrives and begins representing you, you can ask them for YOUR Lawyer, if you have one.

You may be embarrassed by your lifestyle in the public, or may believe you could get in trouble for your fetish, and in most cases, this is true. Once your Lawyer arrives, they can help you make the decisions about your LEGAL standing. If you are the sub type, remember that a Lawyer can NOT make legal decisions For You.

Although Legal Information may be withheld when not in the presence of your lawyer, Medical information can never be withheld legally. Information about the health or welfare of another, or yourself MUST be given to medical professionals or first responders, even if that first responder is a police officer.

Safe Sane Consensual or Risk Aware Consensual Kink always waves favor to, Local Legal Statutes for your area.

Have Comments? Have a Blog? Link Back to me and post your comments on your blog. I’d love to hear what you have to say.

A lot of people know me and my long hair, I’ve been growing it for a couple of years now. Unfortunately, since my surgeries I’m finding it harder and harder to take care of.

Enter people who care about me and argue about my choices in hair style (and lifestyle but that’s not what this one is about) and a serious discussion ensues about me cutting my long “Jesus” style hair.

I thought about it… This is what I came up with….

Locks of Love is a well-established nonprofit organization dedicated to gathering donated hair for children’s wigs. This group provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children across the U.S. who suffer from long-term medical hair loss. These children receive custom-made and fitted wigs made from donated human hair for free or on a sliding scale based on need.

Donated hair must be at least 10 inches long, clean, dry, and bundled into a ponytail or braid. Colored or permed hair is acceptable if it’s not chemically damaged. Gray hair is not suitable for children’s wigs. Most of the wig requests come from girls, and they want long hair. That’s why there is a minimum length. Hair as long as 14 to 16 inches is ideal. Shorthaired boy’s wigs are made from shorter lengths separated from longer ponytails/braids. The Fantastic Sam’s in my area also donates the cost of the cut, so guys, it’s a free haircut.

Wigs for Kids is another nonprofit group that accepts donated hair. This organization also gives hairpieces to children affected by medical hair loss. Their hair donation guidelines are slightly different — hair must be 12 inches long and must not be permed or color-treated in any way.

While chemotherapy is the best-known reason for children’s hair loss, it does not cause a permanent loss of hair. After the treatment is over, hair almost always grows back within three to six months. In contrast, alopecia areata, an autoimmune skin disease, can cause patchy or complete hair loss that lasts for years. The cause of the disease is unknown, and it currently has no cure. Locks of Love notes that most of the children they help have alopecia areata, and the wigs are a great boost to the children’s self esteem.

Another way to help cancer patients (children and adults alike) is to make soft hats to cover their heads during chemotherapy. Viking Sewing Machines has sponsored events for home sewers to make and donate “comfort caps” for those undergoing cancer treatment. One mother who lost her daughter to cancer created a web site with free knitting patterns you can use to make soft berets and hats for cancer patients. Sewing.org has a free tutorial on making turbans to wear during chemotherapy. All of these projects require very few materials and are simple enough for beginners to try.

Whether you have hair or handicrafts to donate, those in need will appreciate the warm, stylish head coverings and your generosity. I’ll post the naked head photos on Thursday.

This may come as a surprise to most people but hospital food has been bad mouthed for a long time… rubbery chicken or boiled beef… under done potatoes or over done peas, pudding - vintage 1949.

But here’s the thought… the alternatives available, starvation diet, not needing to eat because you aren’t there, not nearly as appetizing.

As I sit here waiting on my third heart surgery in as many weeks, NPO (nothing passed orally - no food or water), I can imagine that strained rice soup after a day of not eating might be better than (ok, almost as good as) embalming fluid after a day of not breathing.

If you take the worst cook in the world, they probably already work in some institutional kitchen someplace, but they are still a better host than the mortician.

~Mez~